So much to celebrate

My daughter is getting married this week. My daughter, my baby, my firstborn. And yes, there is so much to be thankful for, to celebrate.

She is marrying a wonderful, fun man, who seems to be a very good match for her. The wedding also makes them officially a family, as he has two young daughters from his first marriage, who adore my daughter and she them.

loveI had hoped to get through the wedding without starting treatment and without revealing that I had multiple myeloma, but that was not to be, But, I am grateful that it has not interfered with any of the activities or the joy of planning such an event. We hosted an engagement party, bought dresses, tasted food, had a fabulous “Showerpalooza”, shopped for accessories, worked on centerpieces, and scanned a zillion photos. I even made my daughter try on my wedding dress, as I always said I would, she has always hated it, and indeed it was not at all appropriate – but it was fun doing it. She made hEr wedding ring from her father’s wedding ring. We’ve had so much fun, reminisced and made new memories – and we haven’t even had the wedding yet!

We will all miss my husband, her father, but she is determined that this be a happy day and I could not agree more.  He will be with us, as he always is, and we have already talked about setting aside a moment, which we will do. But, if there is anything that losing a spouse and having cancer has taught me, it is to enjoy all the good things, the happy moments and the joyous events, fully and with all I’ve got.

We will be surrounded by friends and loved ones, not only from our backyard and all over the country, but all over the world – Massachusetts, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, DC, Virginia, Michigan, Florida, Georgia, California,  London and Argentina.  we are so fortunate to have so many people with which to share our love and this special day.

And as someone asked me recently, yes, I have comfortable dancing shoes, if you’re looking for me I’ll be on the dance floor!

Cycle #4

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Lily pads at the Victoria Falls Hotel, Zimbabwe

I started my 4th cycle of revimid/velcae/dexamethasone this morning. My doctor at Smilow would like to see me making quicker progress and would like to add a 4th drug. My doctor at Dana Farber is pleased with my progress and does not want to make any changes at this point. When I spoke to the APRN at Dana Farber late last week she actually said that sometimes with a very quick response there is also a faster relapse, that sometimes a slower, steady response is better. “Sort of like when you lose weight too fast and then gain it all back”, she said. I am happy with Dana Farber’s plan. I have virtually complete trust in them, they are the experts, this is all that they do.

My mom accompanied me to my appointment this morning (for the first time). We had a very long wait in the exam room after seeing the fellow, waiting for the doctor. I finally said to her “You know Mom, if you want to have cancer you need to be more patient than this!”

I did have the flu (influenza A) for about two weeks. So there’s another good thing about cancer, if I had the flu and did not have cancer, I probably would have never known I had the flu, I would have not gotten the rest I needed and I would have just kept pushing myself and wondering why the heck I couldn’t get over this terrible cold – so there’s that.

Now I have two weeks of treatment and then the off week leading up to my daughter’s wedding, which is perfect.  Lots to do, exciting stuff, can’t wait to see my baby girl get married and visit with family and friends from near and far.